Charming Your Date

When men attend the social events and they see 300 women in the room all looking to find a husband, men forget they sill have to charm their date, Charm date is not a difficult thing to do but it is essential. Yes when you attend the socials you will have more dates than you can handle, but getting a date is not the issue it is closing the deal, and Charm is the next step. These beautiful educated women are looking for a husband not a boyfriend for temporary entertainment. When women look for a husband they expect a little more from you.

Here are the top 10 ways to Charm your Date:

1. Bring her one rose or a bouquet of tulips. Believe it or not, one rose makes the same impression on the recipient as the complete dozen at 1/12th of the price. . She'll say thank you and will remember this kind gesture. Feeling a bit romantic and nostalgic? Bring her three flowers on the third date or four on the fourth date. Memorialize your dates with this kind gesture. Except in Russian and Ukraine where even amount of roses is bad luck. Price: $1.50-$12.00. Benefit: It shows you are romantic.

2. Charm her with chocolate. It's true, chocolate is an aphrodisiac. Dark chocolate is filled with antioxidants and can actually lower your blood pressure. Besides, nibbling on chocolate together can be quite sexy. Go to your local chocolatier and hand-select two truffles in a small box. Price: $5-$10.00. Benefit: Did I say chocolate was an aphrodisiac?

3. Be chivalrous and gracious at all times. Women still love having the door opened for them, the seat pulled out, the valet parking taken care of, and even appreciate it when a gentleman stands up when you return to the table. Do these little gestures matter? Absolutely. Women should always acknowledge when a man shows his chivalrous side and always say "Thank you." Kindness will never go out of style. Price: Your time. Benefit: A happy date makes a happy mate.

4. Converse about what she likes. You may think this is unnecessary. Most guys do. Most guys wonder why they have to talk only about something a girl likes. Why can't girls talk about what a guy likes too?

Of course, girls can. Girls do take an active interest in trying to get to know what guys like to talk about too. But at times, especially when you're trying to make an impression, it's always better to be aware of what's going on in a girl's mind. Now talking about what a girl likes doesn't really mean couture, diamonds or cosmetics. The bridge between girls and guys has narrowed down a lot these days. It's really easy to have an interesting conversation without breaking into a sweat. Stay away from tech reviews, calculations and sports and you should be fine.

5. Flatter her. When you talk to a girl, it's easy to get her talking back to you. But that's not enough. If you want to know how to charm a girl, you need to make her feel comfortable, and yet, let her know you're interested in her.

Friends don't charm each other's pants off. So if you're going to talk to her like a friend, she may think you're a great guy. But she won't think you're a charming guy. To be seen as a charming guy in a girl's eyes, she needs to see you as a dating potential. And to do that, you need to flatter her.

Don't go saying yawn inspiring things like 'you look beautiful', 'you're so pretty', or something along those lines. It's too boring and so-not-genuine. Instead, be vaguely specific when you compliment her. She's got a new hairdo? Say something like "You look really cute today. Is that a new hairstyle?" Cute is a nice word to use because men hardly ever use that word. So when you do use it, she knows how much you mean it.

By flattering her, you can do three things with one line. You can warm her up and make her smile. You can make her realize that you find her pretty. And thirdly, you can let her know that you find her attractive. All of which you need to do to make her look at you as a dating potential.

6. Flirt with her. Guys flirt with girls all the time, but sometimes, a girl can think a flirty guy is creepy. So don't overdo your flirting skills and gross her out. One of the best ways to start flirting is by being casual. Ask her what she does on weekends or after work, ask her about her favorite hangouts and restaurants, and just about anything that can be remotely personal. She'd know you're hitting on her because no one really asks all these questions otherwise.

You can send a tingle up her spine with a simple touch if you've warmed her up already. But remember this. Touch her only if there's a reason to touch her, like touching her ear lobe when you're complimenting her earrings, brushing her hair aside when there's a gust of wind, or placing your hand on her back while crossing the street. A touch is very personal, so you really need to be careful and see how she reacts to your touches before you touch her again.

7. Listen to her. Women love to talk, and talk. if you can pay attention you are half way there. Even if you already know where she works and what her favorite vacation destination is, continue to listen when she speaks. Instead of zoning out or crowing about your own achievements, actively listen, ask pertinent questions and make the requisite responses. One of the best ways you can make a woman feel special is to let her know that her words and opinions are worthy of consideration and you can do this most easily by being a listener.

8. Remember the details. A great way to be charming to women is to remember the details. Names, children and birthdays are standard fare for the charmer and he recollects it easily. It really shows you care.

9. Make her dinner. Many foreign women have never had a man make then dinner, I did thin my first trip to Russia and the girl absolutely loved it, got thanks for weeks later

10. Make her breakfast. If you get to this point, make her breakfast in the morning, French toast with strawberries, easy and foreign women love it. Best if you can do this before she wakes up and serve it to her in bed ;)

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